A pain that demands another's heart to pay attention.
An urgency that will not allow another's mind to be divided.
A courage that forges ahead.
Once, I was watching reality T.V. that focused on singing. The show had chosen a guest coach to work with the contestants. In one episode, the coach said something to one of the contestants that I will never forget. The coach asked the rhetorical question, “Do you think I knock it out of the park every time I stand to sing? Well, I don’t. I am not my best many times.” And then the coach said this, “but I am, when it counts.” Something like a huge gust of wind hit me! The coach said, “I am, when it counts.”
I believe that it is fair to say that we are not always the best version of ourselves. Many times, we are going through the motions of the day and simply doing what is next; handling one task after another. This is particularly true in relationships. Whether in friendships or in intimate partner relationships, we are not always the best versions of ourselves; and honestly, I do not think that it is fair to lay that requirement on us. I do not believe that we are capable of being that version of ourselves that we present on special occasions 100 % of the time. You know, the version that we present when we are at an interview, making a presentation or even meeting a potential mate for the first time. While being the best versions of ourselves is not always warranted, the challenge is, to know when it is needed. In our relationships, we must be the better self, when it counts. So, how do you know when it counts?
Listen. When your friend or partner speaks, they are not only communicating facts, but they are also telling you how they feel. We must listen to the words that are being said, and also hear the emotions that those words hold. Listen for the emotions that the words contain. You may hear happiness, joy, love; or you may hear sadness, anger or fear. If you pay attention to what you are hearing, you will discover a demand for your heart to pay attention.
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